Before even submitting my application to the PhD program, I thought about how nice it would be to live on campus and get the entire “college experience” again. I thought back to my freshman year of college, and I remember it being a blast! Living on campus provides accessibility to campus activities and events that you just don’t get when you live off campus. I envisioned meeting other graduate students and forming lifelong relationships with them. I considered the ease of staying in the library until the wee hours of the morning, then simply walking across campus, unlocking my door and crashing for the rest of the night. I took it all into consideration—and I love the idea of being a fulltime PhD student—but when I went on that campus tour, I started to become slightly anxious.
- How will I fit in on campus?
- How will I relate to the undergraduate students I meet?
- Will people think it’s strange that I desire to join campus clubs?
- What will folks think about an almost-30-year-old living on campus?
Then my thoughts went from the external questions of my appearance and the other students’ perceptions of me to internal questions of my ability to succeed in a PhD program.
- Have I really been in nursing long enough to pursue a PhD in the field?
- Will I be the youngest person in the program? And if I am, will my classmates respect my thoughts and opinions?
- Am I smart enough to be successful in a PhD program?
These and plenty of other questions swarmed my mind until I told myself, “Enough is enough!” I will fit in just right on campus. My presence will bring life and professional experiences that differ from everyone else’s. My being there will help diversify the campus and complement all that every other student has to offer. I will relate to the undergraduate students just as I should—as a mentor and colleague.
Then I told myself that anyone with good sense would be honored to have me as a part of his or her club. I am a hard worker, and I have been a committee member of various organizations at the local, state and national levels. What will folks think about me living on campus? Honestly, who cares? If UCLA thought it was a bad idea for graduate students to live on campus, there would be no graduate student apartments (of which there are plenty). I will be surrounded by other graduate students, and I plan to have a ball getting to know them.
My questions about my intellectual abilities and professional experience were not even worth asking. I did submit an application, and I was offered admission, right? Why would I ever doubt my ability to succeed? Instead of asking, “What was I thinking?” in relation to going back to school, I should have been asking, “What was I thinking?” with regard to all of those negative questions.
As nursing leaders, we have to be courageous in taking hold of our dreams. We can’t allow fear of failure, criticism or the unknown to keep us from running full speed toward our goals, especially as it relates to those of us who are still fairly young in the profession. We must not fall into the trap of counting ourselves out, solely based on our age. Ambition, enthusiasm and a willingness to learn can oftentimes make up for what we lack in experience. And truthfully, experience has more to do with what you’ve experienced, than the amount of time it took you to get the experience.
So, no more questioning myself. No more doubting myself. No more wondering what others will think. I have the dream of a PhD in my sights and I’m going for it! I hope you are taking hold of your dreams as well.
For Reflections on Nursing Leadership (RNL), published by the Honor Society of Nursing, Sigma Theta Tau International.
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